So I don't know if i am the only one that was struck with shock at the whole tiresome process that is getting traditionally married.
I will share in brief what we had to do.
So when we got engaged i told ERBODY YAY IM ENGAGED YAY YAY YAY. obviously the excitement was high. Then my mom explained to me that we need to speak with my dad's sisters (tete) about us wanting to get married. so we called and made a plan to visit my aunt in chinhoyi. so we get there and everyone is super happy and excited blah blah. then they get all serious saying so tell us why you are here. LOL ah hello we spoke about this. But anyway so we say we wanna get married and we need help with the process etc. So then they ask is there anything we need to know ie are you preggos. then they start saying you dnt have to be shy you can tell tete anythn. lol. So they basically then told us that my hubs would need to find a munyai (spokesperson) who will take the gwans from my family to my then fiance. so once that was done they explained that we have to go to my uncle (my dad's brother) and i have to tell him i have brought my fiance and his munyai because they would like to speak with you.
It sucks that my family is spread through so many towns so visiting my uncle entailed going to masvingo. when we got there we were then told that they have to give him some cash que jaw dropping. I cnt remember exactly how much we left him but yikes we were broke now lol.
so he basically explained that he has to take the word that i wanna get roorwad to the rest of my uncles kumusha in mberengwa. then he will take the word to my mom, brothers and my moms brothers.
so once that was done we had to decide on a day where everyone would be able to come. then the part where the uncles the brothers and fathers decide on the bride price. I found it odd that noone even consults you as to what you think is a fair price. Lol i guess i was more naive than most :-) but once it was decided my brothers gave the figure to the munyai and so broke city approached heheehhehehhehe. Honestly i think its so necessary to start saving early unless you are loaded or your folks are funding your traditional marriage.
what came after was jus stress and worry. as a woman when you know how well your man's pocket is lined you will obviously have BP when someone says Rusambo $6000. LIKE REALLY???????? lol but if there is anything i took from the process Kuroora hakuperi. its ok to have a lil something still owing lolest. And dont ever take for granted a man who will be quiet whilst he is being taken for every penny he has because if he still smiles at the end of it just know that this man loves me enough to be broke so I can be his wife. If that means I will cook and clean for him its a small price to pay to be with the one you love forever.
I will try do some more research to give breakdowns of the matekenyandebvu's and the kupinda musha things so you are more in the picture with what will come your way.
ciao for now
I will share in brief what we had to do.
So when we got engaged i told ERBODY YAY IM ENGAGED YAY YAY YAY. obviously the excitement was high. Then my mom explained to me that we need to speak with my dad's sisters (tete) about us wanting to get married. so we called and made a plan to visit my aunt in chinhoyi. so we get there and everyone is super happy and excited blah blah. then they get all serious saying so tell us why you are here. LOL ah hello we spoke about this. But anyway so we say we wanna get married and we need help with the process etc. So then they ask is there anything we need to know ie are you preggos. then they start saying you dnt have to be shy you can tell tete anythn. lol. So they basically then told us that my hubs would need to find a munyai (spokesperson) who will take the gwans from my family to my then fiance. so once that was done they explained that we have to go to my uncle (my dad's brother) and i have to tell him i have brought my fiance and his munyai because they would like to speak with you.
It sucks that my family is spread through so many towns so visiting my uncle entailed going to masvingo. when we got there we were then told that they have to give him some cash que jaw dropping. I cnt remember exactly how much we left him but yikes we were broke now lol.
so he basically explained that he has to take the word that i wanna get roorwad to the rest of my uncles kumusha in mberengwa. then he will take the word to my mom, brothers and my moms brothers.
so once that was done we had to decide on a day where everyone would be able to come. then the part where the uncles the brothers and fathers decide on the bride price. I found it odd that noone even consults you as to what you think is a fair price. Lol i guess i was more naive than most :-) but once it was decided my brothers gave the figure to the munyai and so broke city approached heheehhehehhehe. Honestly i think its so necessary to start saving early unless you are loaded or your folks are funding your traditional marriage.
what came after was jus stress and worry. as a woman when you know how well your man's pocket is lined you will obviously have BP when someone says Rusambo $6000. LIKE REALLY???????? lol but if there is anything i took from the process Kuroora hakuperi. its ok to have a lil something still owing lolest. And dont ever take for granted a man who will be quiet whilst he is being taken for every penny he has because if he still smiles at the end of it just know that this man loves me enough to be broke so I can be his wife. If that means I will cook and clean for him its a small price to pay to be with the one you love forever.
I will try do some more research to give breakdowns of the matekenyandebvu's and the kupinda musha things so you are more in the picture with what will come your way.
ciao for now
And the part where the bride to be is crying wondering do we even have cash for a braai steak left...or just one pizza slice to share with hubby...lol..great experience though...those people make u feel like u don exist when its u thats the source of thw gathering..
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